This week’s #bbloggersoz topic was – How to deal with negative comments? Some beauty bloggers have been truly blessed and have not received any negativity on their blogs (yet!)…but there are some bloggers who have received negative comments – which vary from constructive criticism to plain old nasty comments.  The following is a summary of the Twitter chat but please remember, it is entirely up to you how to deal with negative comments – some people retaliate and some people walk away.

Thoughts On Negative Comments

I was devastated when I received my first negative comment but then you know you’ve made it in the blogging world when it happens!

If you’re putting your thoughts and opinions out there you got to kinda expect some negativity.

Don’t confuse negative comments with constructive criticism.

Constructive criticism addresses the post. Hate is ‘Why do you blog, you’re not as good as XYZ’.

If it’s negative blathering don’t take it to heart. If it’s criticism then think about it.  People may not word their comments too clearly.

Bloggers should support each other not slag each other off, blogging is not a competitive sport.

I respect people that don’t agree with my opinions as long as they don’t attack me personally.

Haters will always hate. You can’t please everyone. Just believe in and love what you write about, be true to yourself 🙂

I also try to remember that the opinion of someone who is nasty for the sake of being nasty is not one I hold in high regard.

I’m not too bothered by negative comments on my blog.  I just take it as part and parcel.

I also think bloggers shouldnt go overboard about negative comments. I saw this blog where the blogger dedicated an entire post to comment on 1 of her posts, so I felt that writing 1 entire rant post just because of 1 comment was making drama out of nothing.

Ways To Deal With Negative Comments

Laugh it off. 9 times out of 10, I know it’s probably something they would never say to my face anyway.

If a hater repeatedly leaves negative comments, block their IP address!

As per haters in real life, best not to react – that is their aim.  If they see you rise above it, they know they have failed.

I always disregard anonymous comments. If you don’t have the balls to say it with your name, don’t say it at all.

It’s probably better to ignore haters / negative comments but it makes me feel better to lash out at them and stand up for myself.

Ignore is key. No matter where the comment comes from.

Delete the comment and move on, no time for negativity on my blog I’m afraid.

If it’s a personal attack at you or another commentator, delete it. Negativity should not be allowed to perpetuate on your blog.

If the comment’s down right mean, I’ll leave it there because it makes that person look stupid not me.

Bashers want you to react and usually stepping away for a few hours /days helps.

What do I do with a nasty person? Usually I bite back which is not the right thing to do, but it feels good at the time.

Moderating comments is useful if a troll is lurking on your blog.

I have received negative comments on my blog…in fact, I got a threat one time…but that’s another story.  I was really upset for days…and I was tempted to quit blogging – but then I realised that is what the haters want.  They want to bring you down!  But I am growing a thicker skin and I refuse to let them destroy my passion for blogging.

I have also experienced negativity about blogging in general from my family and friends.  Some of them think I waste time doing this as it doesn’t earn me money!!!  Yeah, whatever!!!!  I am entitled to do whatever I want in my free time and if blogging makes me happy, then so be it!

Here is a good acronym on HATERS = Having Anger Towards Everyone Reaching Success.  Constructive criticism is welcome on my blog but nasty negative comments are definitely not welcome.

Do you have any more suggestions on how to deal with negative comments?

13 Comments on #bbloggersoz Summary : How To Deal With Negative Comments?

  1. Melissa O'Brien
    05/07/2011 at 12:57 pm (6 years ago)

    I get a few hater comments every now and then. Also a lot on youtube i just laugh and tell them thank you so much for your comment. I think its just jealousy and the fact that they cant get up and do a video. I think my first hateful comment was so original your fat and ugly lol.
    xxxxx

    • Ling Tung
      05/07/2011 at 10:34 pm (6 years ago)

      @Melissa O’Brien, Good on your Melissa for ignoring these haters. It’s not as if they show THEIR face!! It’s sad because they are so ugly inside of them… *sighs* But yay for you staying strong 😀

  2. Emily
    05/07/2011 at 5:53 pm (6 years ago)

    I loved this week’s topic and I’m so sad I didn’t get to join! You’re definitely right to continue blogging, Ling! Props to you for not letting haters get to you 🙂

    • Ling Tung
      05/07/2011 at 10:36 pm (6 years ago)

      @Emily, Thanks Emily! 😀 Mustn’t let those haters get us down!

  3. Sarah Kretchmer
    05/07/2011 at 8:16 pm (6 years ago)

    I started getting some negative comments that were masked as constructive critism but were really being mean ie telling me my blog is about science and not beauty so stop writing about beauty (as my blog is called ‘The Science of Beauty’ this was a pretty stupid comment). When I first got them I was a bit cut up but then I looked at the IP address I realised that they were all coming from the same person – they were writing down a fake name each time. I looked up the IP address and was able to work out who was writing them. The disappointing thing was that they coming from a fellow blogger so I thought that was a bit low as they wouldn’t like it being done to them. I really wanted to ‘out’ them but ended up just leaving it. After reading the advice above I am so glad that I did as it meant that I wasn’t dragged down to their level. HATERS = Having Anger Towards Everyone Reaching Success is the best thing that I have ever read as it is so true. Knowing that acronym makes me happy as I realise that my haters regard me as successful!

    • Ling Tung
      05/07/2011 at 10:37 pm (6 years ago)

      @Sarah Kretchmer, WTF? From another blogger??!! That’s SICK!!! I would SO be tempted to ‘out’ them too…but good on you for having the dignity to walk away from this. And yes, of course you are successful! I freakin’ love your blog Sarah!!! 😀

  4. coco
    05/07/2011 at 11:14 pm (6 years ago)

    i keep missing out on the twitter discussion. (it’s my after dinner nap time….)

    the worst comment i get is attacking my look because of my blog name. well, it’s my blog and i can call it what i like. i shouldn’t deleted it! i should publish the comment along with the person’s IP address to let the world see how childish that person is. oh well.

    • Ling Tung
      08/07/2011 at 9:16 am (6 years ago)

      @coco, Sunday naps are the best!!

      And you just have to ignore that nasty comments coco! Stay strong! And you ARE a pretty mom!!

  5. Cynthia
    05/07/2011 at 11:27 pm (6 years ago)

    Hey thanks for the tips and pointers regarding on negative comments. I normally ignore nonsense ones but if it’s critique criticism then I take it in my part and thank them for sharing what I did wrong or take in their advice to do better next time.

    I remember that day when I was taking a train this lady was extremely upset and told me to get the f in. I didn’t like the manner and tone the way she told me to get in the train, but you know what I shoved off and ignored her. She was more aggravated that I didn’t take part to yell at all cause I didn’t want to ruin my day. It’s like playing chess and in the end I ended up winning checkmate. =)

    • Ling Tung
      08/07/2011 at 9:17 am (6 years ago)

      @Cynthia, Constructive criticism can hurt too though if it’s not worded nicely…or maybe I’m just a sensitive fool??

      What a rude lady on the train! And good on you for not stooping to her level and winning 😀

  6. Squeeze The Pug
    07/07/2011 at 4:08 am (6 years ago)

    Hey Ling, Thanks for posting this.
    I had a handful of hater comments too. How do you check the IP address if the person is anonymous??? Im curious to find out.

    They are quite annoying and upsetting. I have kept all the comments undeleted on my site but have not replied to any. I think they dont deserve any response at all…especially from anonymous dickheads with no balls!

    • Ling Tung
      08/07/2011 at 9:19 am (6 years ago)

      @Squeeze The Pug, Hey gorgeous, glad you found this post helpful. To find the IP address, I google the IP address finder and paste in their IP…and it tells me their location. Stupid haters!! IGNORE them lovely x

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